S2E3 | Episode 34 :: The Lies We Tell Ourselves & How to Get Free
This episode confronts one of the most pervasive and overlooked forms of self-harm on the spiritual path: the lies we carry inside ourselves that we don't even recognize as lies.
You didn't come into this world as a liar. But somewhere along the way, the world lied to you — and you believed it. Then you reinforced it. Then it became the voice in your head you mistook for your own.
Jac & Jess tackle self-deception from multiple angles — not just for those beginning their healing journey, but specifically for practitioners and people already deep in spiritual work who may be blind to their own distortions. The conversation moves through where lies actually live inside your system, why they exist in the first place, and the critical difference between soul-level truth and ego-level truth. Rather than staying in the abstract, this episode gets refreshingly practical with a framework for recognizing which kind of truth you're operating from based on how it feels in your body — and how your unique constitution shapes the specific flavor of lies your ego tends to tell.
What sets this episode apart is the unflinching honesty both hosts bring to the table, including vulnerable reflections on their own paths and the hard-won understanding that spiritual awakening is, in fact, work — no matter what anyone tells you. The conversation also addresses why we need other people to see what we can't see in ourselves, and why that's not a weakness but a necessity.
The episode closes with a powerful Christ-energy clearing process designed to gently surface and release the deceptions you're carrying — no journaling or detailed excavation required, just feeling and letting go.
In This Episode, You'll Discover:
Why you didn't come into this life as a liar and where the lies actually originate
The difference between soul-level truth & ego-level truth — and how each feels in your body
Why the spiritual community's claim that "awakening isn't work" can itself be a form of deception
Where to start uncovering your lies: the three primary places they hide inside your system
How your wounded inner child becomes a habitual liar for survival and what changes when it heals
Why the ego in a traumatized state will lie to protect its own existence
How the mind operates outside your personal chakra system and what that means for discernment
Why what you see and react to in others is one of the fastest mirrors for your own hidden distortions
How projection creates false realities in your relationships without you realizing it
The connection between your Ayurvedic constitution and the specific lies your ego tells
Why your physical body is one of the most reliable lie detectors you have
What it means that we don't come in flawed — but the world imprints its distortions onto us
Why having someone who can see your blind spots isn't optional on this path
Key Themes: Self-Deception | Soul Truth | Ego Truth | Inner Child Healing | Ego Integration | Doshas | Projection | Blind Spots | Accountability | Spiritual Work | Discernment | Christ Energy | Awakening
Key Concepts Clarified:
Soul Truth vs. Ego Truth — These are two fundamentally different frequencies of truth that can be distinguished somatically. Soul truth feels expansive, calm, and clear even when uncomfortable. Ego truth feels urgent, reactive, and defensive — often sounding like justification, victimization, or a broken-record story. Learning to feel the difference in your body is one of the most practical skills on the spiritual path.
The Three Places Lies Hide — Self-deception doesn't live in one location. It concentrates in the wounded inner child (which lies for survival), the unhealed ego (which lies to protect itself), and the uncommanded mind (which lies to maintain control). Each requires a different approach, and all three need to be balanced through the physical body as layers clear.
Dosha-Specific Ego Patterns — Your Ayurvedic constitution influences the specific flavor of lies your ego tells. Vata-dominant people lean toward anxious worst-case scenarios. Pitta-dominant people default to righteousness, blame, and rigidity. Kapha-dominant people settle into lethargy disguised as patience. Knowing your constitution gives you a practical shortcut to recognizing your ego's signature deceptions.
This Episode Is Perfect For:
Anyone who senses they're lying to themselves but can't pinpoint exactly where or how
Practitioners & healers who help others see their blind spots but struggle to see their own
Seekers who've been told that spiritual growth shouldn't feel like work and aren't sure what to believe
People who keep reacting to the same patterns in relationships and suspect projection may be involved
Those ready to understand the difference between what their soul is saying and what their ego is performing
About Your Hosts:
Jac Kalea Patio, HHP is a Holistic Health Practitioner, Light Language Sound Practitioner, and direct channel to Divine Source. Known as a Light Warrior and Healer for Humanity & Gaia, Jac helps people clear trauma, activate their spiritual gifts, and align with their soul's mission through sacred healing modalities. | Jac's Website: Golden Light Healings
Jess Marie, CVC, CAHC, INHC, E-RYT is a Vedic Counselor and Self Work Alchemist with over 10 years of study in The Vedas, consciousness, and integrative health. She specializes in trauma-informed counseling and helps people transmute their challenges into strengths through ancient Vedic wisdom. | Jess’ Website: the meraki method
